Sometimes I feel like I can NEVER GET ANYTHING DONE! No special projects, no hobbies, no friend time, no spouse time, no reading, going out, yard work, chores, organizing, sorting, etc. It feels pretty ridiculous and I wonder how the heck other parents do it.
Then just a few days ago it occurred to me that I am actually incredibly efficient. I get a whole heck of a lot done. In fact, I get a whole lot more done with my time now than I ever did just taking care of myself. The difference is that the things I do now are the things that our survival and happiness as a family rely upon. I change diapers. I feed my children and clothe them. I bathe them, play with them, keep an eye on them all day long. I go on walks with them, talk with them about the animals, people and plants we see. I read to them and make sure they get enough sleep. I make sure they don’t choke on anything. I teach them how to be brothers who love and care about and share with each other. I take them on errands, work in the garden, go to the park, ensure they have a safe environment in which to create and imagine, build castles, forts, and tunnels. I teach them how to play baseball, kick a soccer ball, be a nice friend, trust themselves and have confidence in their abilities, preferences and dreams.
Every day in every way I am teaching them and they are teaching me. They teach me how to slow down and actually appreciate and understand the importance of the little things in life. They remind me that I became a parent not because I like kids (ha!) but because I actually thought I could be a good mom and raise children who would make a positive impact on the world in some small or big way. They help me remember that life is not about what I got done, where I went, who I saw, what I drove, what new thing I bought or wore, or how it looked on me. It is about the moments. The seconds. The hugs these brothers are learning to give each other. The snuggles, the holding hands, the chasing, the playing, the singing, the creating, the reading together, the laughing, the tickling, the living every second in it’s wholeness because you will never get it back. And because to fully live life is to be the living expression of kindness and love, to have joy, to give joy and to make it a priority.
This post was meant to be about what I was able to accomplish in a few uninterrupted hours I arranged for myself earlier this week, but this came out instead. I lose track of what my purpose is, what I’m supposed to be doing. But I made the choice to become a mother and for me what that means is that my main purpose right now is to be a good mom. That doesn’t mean forgetting who I am or not taking care of myself. I do make time for those things, but these children’s lives and well-being are in my hands. I am raising them. That means influencing who they are and who they will become as members of our society. That’s pretty monumental, and it’s on me. So when I put it that way to myself, I realize that I actually do get a lot done, and it feels pretty awesome.
* When I say ‘I’, I sometimes mean ‘we’. My husband is pretty magnificent as a father and a husband. This is a team effort.
** In case you are curious what I got done with that uninterrupted block of time, I created a link on my website to sign up for my newsletter!! So sign up peeps and keep an eye out for that first newsletter to come your way!
How do you manage your time in order to be efficient? Do you ever feel overwhelmed or lost? What are your tips or advice for finding a focus again? Thank you for sharing your thoughts!